Are You Having an Identity Crisis?


One of the main reasons why so many people miss out on the exquisite experience of their conscious awareness is that they’re having an identity crisis.

Quite simply, they think they are someone or something they’re not. They think they are the voice in their head and, as a result, rely on what it says too heavily for defining who they are and what they’re capable of. They think they are what they are feeling emotionally. They think they are their body, having identified with it from an early age. Or they think they are their relationship status, job title, religious affiliation or the long list of other labels that they’ve found to help define who they are.

It is normal to be on the search to find meaning from all of the potential sources listed above. Whether aware of it or not, there’s a big chance that you, too, have been exploring the answer to life’s big question: Who am I? Without guidance it is extremely easy to fall into the understandable assumption of thinking that you are the temporary and transient traits that so many others think they are, too:

  • I must be the voice in my head because it sounds like me.

  • I must be my emotions because I feel them inside me so intimately.

  • I must be my body because it’s been with me since I was born.

  • I must be my job title because that’s what I tell people I am when asked what I do.

  • I must be my relationship status because my marriage certificate says so.

  • I must be my religion because it is what I believe in so strongly.

The list goes on and on. But none of these things are ultimately you. Yes, they contribute to your personality and what you tend to do with your day, but that does not make them you. Why? They are all temporary, come and go and change. Therefore attempting to find your Self in these transient labels is a bit like trying to stay still in the ocean without an anchor. It’s not going to work and you’ll find yourself drifting. Moving from one mental construct to another can be very confusing – not to mention highly stressful – if you attempt to define who you are from the things in your life that constantly change and are, to a large extent, outside your immediate control.

“What if you are not who or what you think? Are you willing to explore a new way of perceiving and experiencing your Self? ” — from Mind Calm book



To be self-aware can mean many things, with one of most important being to be aware of the aspect of your SELF that is AWARE.  During literally thousands of hours of meditation, I’ve explored the big question of Who Am I? and come to conclude: I am simply the Self that is aware. Everything else is a mind- made creation or life circumstance that comes and goes. But that which is aware does not. So who are you? You are the conscious awareness that is aware of the voice in your head and all the other thoughts and emotions happening daily. The awareness that is aware of your body and all the physical sensations and conditions that occur. The awareness that’s aware of all of your relationships, bank balance, the jobs you do, the houses you inhabit and the hobbies that you happen to love.

Conscious awareness is inherently still and silent. A sign that you are aware is that you experience inner stillness and silence. It is my hope that reading this is an eye opener for you. Not solely from a conceptual perspective, but that you experience what I refer to as the ‘Infinite I’.

Spoken about by countless spiritual teachers over millennia, the Infinite I (or ‘infinite-eye’, if that makes more sense to you) is the awareness that is observing life unfold and the consciousness that all of life exists within. You have front-row seats at this glorious adventure called your life. It is time to say ‘bring it on’ and welcome whatever happens with wide-open arms. 

“Awareness is the one facet of you that has been with you your entire life and you’ve never for one iota of a moment existed without.”

— from Mind Calm book